7 Ways 2023 Will Be Your Worst Year Yet - If You Allow It

A new dawn is born when you realize you were your worst enemy all along.

"Why am I so dumb?" "Ugh, I'm so fat." "They may have been able to do it, but I can't." "What is wrong with me?" "Why is my life so hard?" "At this rate, things will never get better for me."

It's challenging for my jaw to not drop as I sit and type out this sample of negative thoughts I've lived with. Even now, I just don't understand how I was so mean to myself when I'm supposed to be my biggest fan. For many years I lived with these demeaning perspectives, and I know that it halted my personal growth beyond measure. I've faced some dark days and darker thoughts, but am grateful to say that my love and hope for a better future allowed me to grow. I grew so much so, that a cage could no longer confine me. I held on to whatever light I had and never let it go. I saw a better reality than what surrounded me. I chose to believe that nothing was too good for me.

Nearly every single thing that exists in your life, your world, or your reality exists because you allow it to. If you don't like something, you don't have to live with it. It's not always easy, but stepping out on faith to build your dream life is worth it every single time.

You're Entertaining Regret

How can you possibly expect to see forward when you keep looking back? Do you want to know why your years keep looking the same? You're not enjoying your moments. You're either too focused on the future and getting there or too worried about the past which is something you can't change. Please understand that you did the best you could do with what you knew at that time. Regret involves a lot of the present you judging the past you. Well, the present you sure does have some nerve because the present you learned and has way more to go off of. So it's easy to judge, easy to regret. Cut yourself some slack, and know that it's alright. Appreciate your past and know that you were built to prevail above it all. This is your story and you have the final say.

Too Much Talk and Not Enough Action

Okay so you've got the goals, you've got the plans, and you see the vision. You've posted how you're going to be moving differently, you've talked to those close to you disclosing your resolutions, and you've pep-talked yourself into believing this year will be different. And yet, April pokes her head out and those resolutions are history. Remember, doing something is more than just saying you're going to do it. It's the consistent day-to-day efforts that collectively create the change you desire. I suggest, instead of looking at the year in its entirety, look at the week ahead; the month ahead. Put more power and effort into your moments. Make every single one count and reap the collective rewards. Treat each day as if it's a year.

You're Not Your Biggest Fan

Trust that you're not alone; I'm still working on being my biggest fan too. Shhh, let's keep that between us though! A lot of us tend to go looking for support through and from other people. We want to see that people are proud of us, love us, and are rooting for us; but honestly, that's a huge setback. It's time for you to be proud of yourself! It's time for you to root for yourself! It's time for you to truly be in love with yourself. Stop allowing yourself to believe you need support from other people. Especially when you're barely giving it to yourself. Start there.

You're Still Not Acknowledging What Makes You Happy

Whew chile, now you know damn well what you're doing isn't pleasing you, so why are you still involved? They say sometimes you have to do what you hate to get the results you love. I say, it is very much so possible for you to do what you love and get what you love. Yes, hard work reaps rewards. Yes, in this life we are bound to experience things we don't like. NO, you don't have to settle for less or compromise your comfort and happiness to live an okay life. If you don't like that job, why are you still there? If you don't like that educational route, what's taking you so long to switch it up? If this relationship isn't feeding your joy, why are you still entertaining it? Stop making excuses. Care about yourself enough to feed your joy. Develop your passions and live out your dreams. It isn't a cliche; anything really is possible.

You're Still Selling Yourself Short

Now how do you know that you can't do something if you haven't even tried to yet? Do you know how crazy that sounds? I don't know why we tend to convince ourselves that we're ordinary and everyone around us is extraordinary, but it's all a fantasy. Yeah, people are born with innate gifts that allow them to naturally excel in certain areas above others, but so were you! You have that magically insane innate gift as well. Find it, practice it, and own it. We all have things we're good at. Then we have things we love. Then we have things we're good at and we love. Find that third thing, and hold onto it for dear life. Nurture it, practice at it, and find the way that's been waiting on you. Hone that talent you love, and use it to build the life your soul knows you were destined to live.

You're Allowing Other People To Affect You

I'm going to put you on to a superpower that every human should have but doesn't. With this power, you can stand in rooms with your head held high, orchestrate new ideas clearly and confidently, and (especially for my empaths) protect your energy and space at all times. I'll call it, External Energy Deflection. And all that means is blocking out other people's negative energy, and not allowing it to transfer. Their bitterness, anger, jealousy, and meanness; you are above it all. People tend to use others as energy outlets. They'll push all that negative energy onto you and leave feeling better while you're left feeling horrible because you're now the new host for that energy. Avoid this by allowing their negative energy and baseless words to fall on deaf ears. Not everything is worth engaging in. Some things just don't deserve responses. Accept this, and begin moving above things beneath you.

You Are Still Afraid

Fear can go a long way and it can trickle down into a lot of different aspects of our lives. Don't allow it to contain you. Go off on a whim. Find what makes you smile. Speak your mind. Retry your goals again and again until it's achieved. Embrace failure because it means you're one step closer to perfection. Never give up on yourself. Fear is genuinely an illusion. It's the anticipation of something bad before the hope of something good. Make an effort to have more faith than fear, and watch the phenomenal person you've been this entire time, finally shed its skin. What did Nike say? Oh yeah, just do it!

Now That You Know, Go Be Great!

If you want this year to be yours, you must first start with this day being yours. Own it. Start within your mind; seriously. You'll be surprised how much everything around you changes when you get to know yourself instead of letting other people tell you who you are. Know that you are your biggest asset, so take care of yourself as such. Click here to access resourceful tools that bring you closer to your true self. And remember, you definitely can have anything you desire out of this life, you just have to want it enough. It's time for you to give yourself the life you deserve.

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