Why You Should Always Put Yourself First
- Lauren Ashley
- Jun 3, 2023
- 5 min read
It's time to release those pesky expectations you have in other people. It's time to start doing all that you do, for YOU first. It's time for you to be your greatest priority.
Put yourself first in everything that you do. Yes, everything. It's important for you to truly understand that you are the biggest asset in your life. That means you need to take care of yourself like no other. Love yourself unconditionally, and watch as health and wellness effortlessly thrive throughout your life. Respect yourself wholeheartedly, and notice how respectful people and situations will effortlessly enter your life. Honor yourself endlessly, and see the waves of abundance, admiration, and joy dance throughout your days.
It's okay to love the people in your life unconditionally, actually, it's encouraged! What's not okay, is to allow the love you bear for someone else to overshadow just how much you love yourself. You can't show up in other people's lives as your best self and give them the you that they deserve if you're not even nurturing yourself as you should. You can't neglect yourself, not anymore. Do you want to see a better life? It all starts with you.
Breaking Yourself for Other People? A No-No
Hurt people, hurt people. Broken people, break people. If you've heard these sayings before, then you're already familiar with the concept of people projecting their pain and hardships onto others. It happens way too often and affects too many people who are naive to this philosophy. It's not your job to fix someone else. You can't heal them, and you can't mold them. They have to do that themselves. They need to want that for themselves.
I understand the feeling of wanting to help someone; of seeing them on a downward spiral and just needing to pull them out of it. But that's not your job. Your job is to help others, to be a leading light. It's okay to serve as guidance for someone else. You can guide them, but you can't walk for them. How are you going to walk for them, huh? What about your feet? What about your path? If you stay too focused on how someone else is driving in their lane, then you're just leading yourself into your own crash.
Understand that eventually, you need to know when to step back. Everyone has their own path, so let them walk it. Have faith that you've done your best for them, and acknowledge your limits. Trust me, if you keep putting other people over yourself then you'll break before you get to fix anything.
Stop Waiting on a "Thank You"
We all do it. When going out of our way for another person by acting out a good deed, we expect a "thank you". And honestly, there is nothing wrong with knowing that you deserve to be treated politely with respect. You would do that for others, so you'd expect to receive the same minimal efforts in return, right? Well, what if I told you that the expectation of a "thank you" is rooted in the need for acknowledgment and validation?
When you do anything in your life, and I do mean anything, you need to always do it for yourself. If you want to donate, do that because you want to and it makes you feel good. If you want to go on a vacation, go because you have the desire to go there and retreat. If you want to hold the door open for someone else, do it because it makes you feel great and you have the desire to pass light onto them. Don't donate because someone told you to or because you want to feed into an image you've created. Don't go on vacation because all your friends are going or you're trying to maintain that image you've created. Don't hold the door open for someone else because you're expecting gratitude and acknowledgment from that person.
Put yourself first; accomplish all that you do because it aligns you with your purpose and because it makes you happy. Uproot and release the need for social validation from others. We all have to face that challenge and overcome it, especially with the existence of social media. Don't fall into that toxic mindset of entitlement and validation. Be strong in who you are, and live a life that caters specifically to you, for you, by you.
There's Only One You
You only get one chance to make the most of out the life you're living right now. You only get to experience a day one time. A week one time. A month one time. A year one time. You don't have time to waste your life by living it through the opinions, perspectives, and influences of others. Your life is yours and yours alone. We were blessed with the essence of community, so that we may learn from one another and grow together. Not so that we could judge and bully each other. Yes, you've made mistakes, but haven't we all. Don't listen to people who act as if they do no wrong, they're lying. They're not perfect, and they barely have their own lives figured out for themselves. Perhaps they should focus more on their challenges, than your decisions!
There is only one you. No one else has your spirit, your power, and your destiny. Therefore it's important for you to love yourself enough to be your biggest fan. Praise yourself! Believe in yourself! You can be anything you want to be. You can do anything you want to do. You absolutely can have it all. Remember, you only live once. There's no time for doubts and regrets! All of the decisions you've made in your life have brought you here right now, thirsty for wisdom and ready for change.
Go Be Great
Embrace your inner strength, which you have used to persevere through pains long forgotten. Make conscious choices and decisions to create your version of an ideal life. If you don't know what that looks like, start asking yourself questions to figure it out. Get to know yourself! Model your life based on your desires. Always put yourself first. Love yourself unconditionally. Respect yourself wholeheartedly. Honor yourself endlessly.
If you've aligned with these words, or need a little extra guidance then check out our resources. From healing guides to journal prompts, Kokoropsyche has various quality resources for you to choose from. Allow yourself to obtain peace, enhance your personal power, and reach new heights through the genuine light of Kokoropsyche. Thank you so much for being here in this moment, and may love and light follow you throughout all your days.
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