How to be Happy: It Starts With Refusing to be Fake Happy
- Lauren Ashley
- Feb 12, 2023
- 4 min read
Updated: Mar 1, 2023
There would be nothing worse than waking up one day years from now, and realizing you've been living your life for everyone else but yourself.
There is a large number of people who wake up every day in this world completely unfulfilled with what they've come to know as their life. They feel lost, empty, uninspired; and the worst part is that they've excepted this reality as their own. They've convinced themselves that better does not exist, and if it does, then it's completely unobtainable for them. They've allowed their minds to conditionally accept these lies. They've allowed themselves to settle with unhappiness, which is one of the worst things a human can do to themselves.
Allow us to show you how to be happy, but you've been warned. It won't work if you don't want it enough.
Silence the Noise
As we walk through life, we all experience the unwelcomed constant opinions, judgments, and condescending tones from others. The older you get, the more you begin to realize that everybody's trying to figure life and themselves out; even the people who act as if they have it all together. The issue with this is, people will often try to tell others how they should live their life or what decisions they should make without even bothering to put themselves in that person's shoes. Or without focusing on healing themselves before they start worrying about another.
We shouldn't project our own opinionated beliefs onto other people's life choices, and we certainly can't pass judgment on them. No one is seeing your journey through your eyes, remember that. It's easy for others to look down on something they haven't been through. It's easy for them to judge something they know nothing about.
This happens every day to millions of people around the world; to the happiest and least happy. The difference between the two is that the happiest people in the world know how to silence the noise. This doesn't mean, "never accept criticism!", because criticism is a blessing, as long as it's constructive.
Not everyone will get your path; it even took you some time to learn about it! They're not supposed to see your plan, your way, or your vision the way in which you see it. If they could, it would be theirs.
People are afraid of the unknown which is why the idea of a future can be so frightening. But you'll only be scared if you feel as though you can't control it. And you may not be able to control this world and what goes on around you, but you can control YOUR world and what goes on within you.
What Do YOU Want?
It's time to get to know yourself. If you long for happiness, that means there is a present feeling of lack. Start asking yourself some very important questions, such as:
What makes me happy? Why?
What am I great at? What is effortless for me?
Am I where I want to be in life right now? If not, what steps can I lay out that can start bringing me closer to my desired future?
Do I love my job? If not, why am I settling?
Do I love my home? If not, what/where would I like to live? How can I obtain this home?
Do I love my life? If not, what changes need to be made to obtain that love?
What have people told me I should? What do I actually want to do?
You don't need to have the answers to these questions right away. The point of these questions is to help introduce you to things you've been subconsciously avoiding; the embodiment of your true self.
It's time to outcast everybody else's opinions and wants; you deserve to focus on what you desire for yourself. These people don't have to live with the heavy feeling you get in your chest, the intrusive thoughts you experience too often, or the void developed within that just keeps growing the further you distance yourself from your truth.
Stop Settling
If you hate that job, quit it. If you're unhappy at that school, research better options. If this relationship is depleting you, leave it. If that house isn't what you expected it to be, sell it!
Of course, these things are easier said than done, but you finding your way is always worth it. And it's okay to not have all the answers at first. Do the research, maintain a consistent effort, and believe that you can provide for yourself.
STOP convincing yourself that you aren't a badass --- because news flash! You're as bad as they come, and all you have to do is believe it. No seriously, what we think literally we create. You don't have to settle for unhappy experiences because you've convinced yourself you're not good enough for better. Embrace the discomfort of the unknown, and start owning a mindset of elevation and prosperity.
It's time for you to believe in yourself. Deep down you have a general idea of what you want your life to look like. Stop freaking yourself out by focusing on the biggest steps and goals, and instead focus on the smaller details and work backward.
Find the bricks that build the "wall" which is your dream, locate the cement you need to hold your bricks together, and create your dream's blueprint. It doesn't have to be perfect, but at least it's something. At least you've gained a sense of direction. Even if you feel like you can't see your purpose, your soul feels it and knows it; which is why you feel so unfulfilled, like there's a void within you.
Start now. Instead of putting energy towards a facade of happiness, put that energy towards creating your dream reality. When you finally realize how possible it is for you to have what you want, you'll stop wasting your time settling for dreams that aren't even yours.
Your Life is Yours
It's time for you to start owning your personal power. You have the power to bend your world to your will, but it all starts with you. Once you truly own your life, happiness and peace will effortlessly follow.
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